|Communication Tip No. 10: You Can’t Fix Them, But You Can …
By Caitlin Bootsma
Whether it’s a toddler being mean-spirited to a sibling, a teenager being self-involved and refusing to see the bigger picture or a coworker holding onto bitterness and resentment, it can be tempting to try to fix them. After all, if you have knowledge or expertise to share, why not impart your wisdom?
The problem is this: the attitude of trying to fix someone is often counter-productive. Rather, as one columnist in Psychology Today says, we should seek to serve the person facing a struggle or challenge. When serving, you are collaborating with the person rather than imposing a solution upon them.
Despite my best intentions, I find it is all too easy to fall into the “fix it” mentality. So, when I’m tempted to fix the behavior of a youth, I’ll try to remember instead to:
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