Where Does Kindness Begin?

This is a truth that you already know, but it is worth repeating. Practice what you preach. Why? Because kids learn just as much from what you do as what you say.

Recently, my toddler has picked up a new phrase "Stop that, Mama!" she says in her most authoritative voice. Who did she get that from? Me, of course! While her bossy little voice was somewhat endearing, it also served as a reminder to me to find gentler ways to encourage her in good behavior.

If you want your kids to be kind to others, be kind to them. If you want them to be good listeners in class, put down your work/your phone/your book, and listen to them. If you want them be generous, allow them to witness you giving to others (through your time, your talents, and your financial support). 

Of course, modelling virtue needs to be paired with guidance as well. When one brother is getting rough with another, for example, we have the opportunity to say, "In our family, we use words (not fists) to talk about what is making us upset." They will know this is true, because that is also what you do when you are upset. 

Your example will also be particularly crucial when they see others misbehaving or acting in ways that are inappropriate or misguided. And, hopefully, because you have fostered a culture of kindness and virtue at home, the children you care for will be able to be ambassadors of kindness and generosity to others.
 

 

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